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Self-Confidence

I may not be perfect, but parts of me are pretty awesome!

Hana’s last post was a pretty personal post highlighting her past difficulties and how this year she is going to focus on being her, not caring about what people think. Now I think Hana is awesome and honestly, she has a heart of gold and is an incredible person and her post reminded me of the quote above, “I may not be perfect, but parts of me are awesome!”

If I am honest, I don’t really think the person I was two years ago with ever agree with this saying as I went through a party hard time with time with self-confidence issues. I don’t know about you but I found societies views very conflicting as one minute I was being told to ‘fit in’ and the next minute I was being told to ‘stand out and be myself’. I never felt like I was good enough (as a person) or that I looked great! I remember coming home from school and the first thing I would do was look at myself in the mirror and pick out my insecurities. It was so strange because I had a great school life and was never bullied or teased for the way I look but for some reason I felt insecure.

I am not trying to sound big headed, I am just telling you my story, but I used to one of those girls that was quite good at talking to boys – I guess growing up with two brothers helped in that department. I was always relatively confident and seemed to attract the attention of quite a few boys. My friends would make remarks like ‘How come the boys like you’ or ‘Everyone always fancies you’ and ‘you are so pretty of course the boys want you’. Although at the time it was like okay … boys … like me … what do I do … and although my friends were always telling me it was a great thing to be liked I just was never confident in myself. I never accepted myself for the way I was and instead only saw the imperfections!

I feel there is a lot of confusion between self-confidence as people think people want to change the way they look to attract attention from potential relationship partners and for some people that may be true. However, I think for a lot of people its about finding self acceptance and I know I felt that If i changed things about me I would like myself better or feel confident.

Nothing holds you back more than your insecurities

There is a quote that says ‘Nothing holds you back more than your insecurities’ which I believe is quite true. Whether its due to your appearance or maybe its something your not particularly good at, our insecurities hold us back from reaching our dreams and goals. It stops us from living our life as ourselves and instead drives us to this reality where we believe we have to be like someone else. I struggled with this for quite a while and during this time I lost my faith and had some pretty down moments. I also spent a lot of this time being really judgemental and always looking at peoples legs and comparing them to mine (my legs were my biggest problem).

It wasn’t until I opened up to my mates and got help from them and my boyfriend, that I realised I don’t need to change as the person I am now is loved by these people. I became more content in myself realising that actually I do have some pretty awesome traits. I began to build my faith back up, praying that God would be with me and open my eyes to see the beautiful creation that he has made and intricate works he has done in order to create me.

A flower does not think about competing to the flower next to it. it just blooms.

This quote is one of my favourites. We shouldn’t have to be worried about what other people think of us. I am sorry to say but there will always be people who will put you down, not like you or want you change – that is just life! There is no perfect human, each person has insecurities (even models) but these insecurities make us who we are. They make us different, they make us beautiful (ironically) and they make us bloom in amongst the field of different flowers. Don’t worry about what other people think. Just be you and own it because no one is like you and I am sure when you start believing in yourself and feeling content with yourself, your life will be a lot easier and less time will be spent judging.

You were born to be real. Not to be perfect.

So today, I sit here writing this post – not loving myself but not hating myself. I am content with who I am and agree I do have imperfections but so does everyone. Without my imperfections I wouldn’t be me! I know that self-confidence is a big issue and can appear in so many different forms but let me tell you something, you will get through it! Even if you may not realise it, there are always going to be people in your life who are going to be there for you and help you through the bad times. That’s how I made it to where I am today because of the people I surrounded myself with. So be strong and hold on to this quote ‘You were born to be real. Not to be perfect’.

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5 thoughts on “Self-Confidence”

  1. very important topic. thank you so much for speaking up about this… it takes time to get to a place where you’re just ok, just accept/starting to accept everything you are. x

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    1. Hey Tabitha, your comment has literally made my day Hun! I know how hard it is to struggle with self confidence. I still have some bad days where I’m not happy with myself but love you are YOU! And no one else is like you. We need Tabitha, we need you in the world and the people around you will agree with me 🙂 You are gorgeous and God loves you loads Hun! I’m always here if you wanna chat xx

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