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Dealing with Failure

No one is perfect.

Failure or disappointment is a part of everyday life. As a student, I know this as well as any one. There are often days where nothing will go right. You will wake up and get your hairbrush stuck in your knots and stab your toe on the door, only for you to get to work or class and get back some shockingly poor results. On days like this can be so easy to want to crawl into bed and cry. Last Friday I had one of these days. Everything was going wrong. My hair wouldn’t behave and my first lecturer was overly unkind, asking me to translate hieroglyphs that he knew that I didn’t know very well. Then I went to get results from the office to get unfortunately low marks. Before 10.30 am I wanted to cry in a corner and never come out.

But, Im not perfect and sometimes I meet up. Dealing with disappointment and bad days is something one must learn to over come. So I thought I would put together a little post on how I deal with failure, specifically academic failure or disappointment.


DISTANCE


I’m awful with facing bad results. I always find it so much easier to have a quick look, and then tuck it away for a while. This is not to say that this is the best way to deal, but its true what they say, out of site, out of mind. In fact I literally tucked mine away on Friday, got on a train and disappeared off to Liverpool for a weekend of retail therapy with Jenny. But gaining that distance mean that when I returned on Sunday night, I didn’t feel so terrified or upset to read the feedback. So do something else, visit a friend, or go to the cinema. Do something away from work.

Distance, not only made me less sensitive, but coming back on day where I’d just got back from having one of the best weekends I’ve had in a long time, I didn’t feel attacked like I had that Friday. It makes everything seems much easier.


ACCEPTANCE


Once I’ve actually got the nerve to look at the feedback, I think its so important to read through it. Figure out where exactly I went wrong. Had I misunderstood the question, or was my grammar off? Maybe it was the direction I took the paper or something such. Either way, if I look through the feedback, the annotations on the paper, I can learn from my mistakes and improve my work.

Accepting your mistakes is hard. Believe me, I know. but it is vital to accept that you made them before you can learn from them and avoid them in the future.


HAVE HOPE AND WORK HARD


I always find that after I receive bad results I work so much harder. Im motivated to not get the results again, so I work constantly for days and days until I start to feel the pressure less. But, I wish this would last longer. Each time I get more frustrated with myself for not continuing the productive and motivated cycle for longer. So, this time I will make sure I do so. By working hard now, I can start revising for my exams, get my dissertation proposal written and approved and better myself for the future.

I like to think that I work hard, but I know that I work far harder when I have proof that my work is not good enough for me. I always find that I am, as many say, my own worst critic. I am the one who is unhappy with my results. You must always remember that everything you do, whether you are at school studying for GCSE’s or hard at work long past school, you should be doing for yourself. If you are unhappy with your work, then thats because either, you know you could do better or because you are too hard on yourself. You need to be able to accept you for you, no matter what.

Any form of failure, dissipointment is hard to deal with, especially when you put the work in for so long. I hope that I may help give you some ideas of how to deal with the low feelings that accompany a low grade, and maybe give some advise on how I react to them. Thank you for reading, if you have any advise on this let me know in the comments below xx

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